After a recent blog posting, I was asked to explain how to
start a conversation with a stranger. For this purpose, a stranger would be
anyone whom we meet in the course of our day’s activities but not in the arena
of networking events. These strangers would not be anyone whom we meet at an
event where this type of conversations would be expected.
If you don’t know where to go to meet people, where do you
go each and every day? Do you go shopping, do you buy gas, do you go to the
mechanic, and do you go to coffee shops? These are public places where people
are. When asked why they rob banks, bank robbers say because that’s where the
money is. Go where the people are.
These strangers would be those people whom we meet in coffee
shops, on the sidewalk, at a grocery store, across the island at a gasoline
station, in line at the office supply store, or anywhere else where we may not be
looking for anyone with whom to chat. They are right in front of us, everyday
and everywhere.
So how do you use Gratitude Marketing to start a conversation
with these strangers, without being considered pushy or infringing upon their
space or time? Look for the signs; look for something that you can compliment;
look for the signs that the other person may welcome conversation. Also, look
for the signs that they may not welcome interruption.
Are they speaking with someone else, perhaps on the phone
(look for the Bluetooth headset on the person who is talking to themselves)? Are
they listening to headphones or writing or working on their laptop? Is there
something that you would like to ask them about: their laptop brand, their dog,
their coat, their hat, whatever they might consider special?
I once had a 20 minute conversation on a sidewalk with a man
walking 2 dogs. I have had 2 other conversations with him on subsequent
occasions, and I know that his dogs like to be scratched on their heads and
spoken to in soft terms. We never exchanged names, but this is great practice
for other conversations. I have had many chats that are similar.
Do not look upon
every stranger as a potential prospect or client. Just chat with people and get
to know them. Try a smile and a simple hello. Ask about something that appears
to interest them or something that they have. Maybe you have similar taste in
clothes; maybe you own different laptops; maybe you both were stood up by an
appointment in the same coffee shop. Instead of yelling at someone who bumps
into your grocery cart, say hello and laugh about it.
You will often meet someone who doesn’t want to chat. That’s
fine; perhaps apologize and move on with a smile. If you meet them again
sometime, be pleasant and see what happens. Compliment them on something and
see if they open up. Maybe they won’t now, but maybe they will at another time.
Some people don’t warm up to strangers easily; do you?
You will receive the same treatment that you project. If you
are warm, welcoming, and open to strangers’ conversations, you will receive the
same treatment in return. This is karma; you get back what you project, good or
bad. If you are not getting warm receptions to your overtures to converse, look
at what you are projecting. You might not be practicing Gratitude Marketing.
Please leave your comments or your thoughts, or email me at Jim@SOC4Now.com,
or call me at 360-314-8691.
Let’s just have a conversation.
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