“You cannot always have happiness, but you can always give happiness.” I have never known who first said this, but you can substitute lots of words for “happiness”, and it is very true no matter what word you use. It is a proven fact that those who give to others will receive back that same gift from someone, somewhere, somehow. You can call it karma, or whatever other term you use, but it is true.
“Delivering happiness” is the motto of one of the most outstanding retailers, Zappos, the online apparel store. Read the story of the company in Tony Hsieh’s book, “Delivering Happiness, A Path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose”. They believe that their company is “powered by service”, a philosophy that more businesses should follow. The back of the book jacket lists 10 reasons to buy the book, all of which are enlightening.
So what makes us all happy? What is happiness to us; what drives us to be successful? What even satisfies the question that we have done what we should do? How do we define success; how do we measure our success as a business person or as an individual? Is it the amount of money that we make, or is it the number of people’s lives that we impact in a favorable manner, making them better in some way?
Each of us will answer these questions in different ways. What makes one of us happy or successful may be very different from what means the same to someone else. What defines our lives may not even be in the realm of similarity for someone else. That is what makes us all individuals and normal people.
Is it the balance of money in our bank account, the number of investments that return dollars to us, or the number of friends that we have? Is it the size of our residence, the number of cars in our garage, or the number of people that we have touched, helping them to rise above the level of living where they were when we first met?
Maybe we have a lot of friends or contacts in social media, but do we have anyone with whom we can say that we have a relationship of mutual trust and support? Do we have those whom we can contact for assistance, information, and to whom we can bare our souls and minds? Take a step back, and let yourself take a long, honest look at your life and how your relationships matter to you and to whom you are.
Bob Byrd and John David Mann say in their book, “The Go-Giver”, that we should be of service to others. Their Five Laws of Stratospheric Success stress the idea of giving to others, supporting the success of others, and helping others reach their potential. This is a great book which stresses the principles of karma, that we all get back from someone and somewhere whatever we put forth into the world, no matter to whom we give. But we should give to give, not to get.