Two weeks ago we discussed positive attitudes versus negative ones. I received several emails and comments regarding this subject, so let’s see how we create positive attitudes in spite of negative vibes from others. It is our life, and what we make of it is up to us.
Every day, throughout the day, we need to look at everything that we do and how it influences our day and that of others. We do not have business lives which do not reflect our personal lives, and we do not have personal lives that do not impact our business ones. One influences the other, and both are inter-meshed.
If you want your life to be positive, that decision is up to you. If others make you negative, change your circle of associates. If you have hostile influences in your life, change your environment and the influences therein. If your attitude negatively impacts your own life and that of others, change your behavior. You have the power.
Let’s start out simple. Today, and everyday, start speaking positively to everyone that you meet. Say hello to others, tell them to have a good day, and smile at them. Thank them for whatever they do, tell them that they have a great smile, and recognize that they exist in a positive manner. You will improve their day and attitude and conversely, yours.
Open a door for someone else, let someone go ahead of you in a line, let someone ahead of you in traffic, slow down and smell the flowers (and then tell someone else to do so), and compliment the person that planted those same flowers. Compliment someone on their clothing, their smile, and their laughter. They will smile more and laugh more, and so will you.
If you belong to a group that has a negative person in attendance each and every time you meet; smile at that person and get to know them. Maybe you can help change whatever makes them negative. Maybe you can refer someone to them that will help them. They may never have thought about how their situation affects their outward appearance or attitude.
We have a tendency to shy away from those people with whom we disagree. We tend to not want to associate with negative people. Do you ever wonder why they are that way? Did you ever meet with them and get to know them? Maybe you have something in common or there’s something with which you can help each other. You will never know until you try.
I said to change your circle of associates or change your environment and the influences therein. Take some action to try to alter the negativity and create positive energy and alter the attitudes and energy of others. Your life will be better if you make the lives of others better. Your business will be better if you make the businesses of others better.
You cannot undertake to improve the lives, attitudes, or business of others unless you find out what their current situation may be. You find out by getting to know them and determining what makes them the way that they are. Otherwise it is like a physician who operates on someone without knowing what their problem is or where the problem is located.
So get out of your shell and help make someone else a more positive person. If you have a favorite way you try to do this, leave me your suggestions and I’ll try to share them. Call me at 360-314-8691 or email me at Jim@SOC4Now.com so we can all help each other.